Comments on: Letter To My Daughter http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/ Listen to stories on anything from honeymoons to WWII, from award-winning journalists to first-time writers alike, from anywhere in the world. Fri, 29 Aug 2008 03:23:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Neha Diwan http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-1301 Tue, 02 Jan 2007 09:49:02 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-1301 This is absolutely Beautiful !..I am overwhelmed...The first thing that comes to my mind is that...Those of us who have been blessed to have real Moms and Dads should thank God and Cherish them.Though i do believe that Lea did take the right call, it takes a lot to make a decision on those lines. Go back and Hug your mum and dad and tell them you love them. This is absolutely Beautiful !..I am overwhelmed…The first thing that comes to my mind is that…Those of us who have been blessed to have real Moms and Dads should thank God and Cherish them.Though i do believe that Lea did take the right call, it takes a lot to make a decision on those lines.

Go back and Hug your mum and dad and tell them you love them.

]]> by: Alison http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-274 Tue, 07 Nov 2006 03:35:49 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-274 As a birth mother, I fully appreciate her heartfelt sentiments but the letter offers too much information and lacks focus. When approaching one's child for the first time, I would advise any birth mother to do so with with sensitivity, kindness and respect for boundaries. Start slowly, then build. This letter overwhelms. As a birth mother, I fully appreciate her heartfelt sentiments but the letter offers too much information and lacks focus. When approaching one’s child for the first time, I would advise any birth mother to do so with with sensitivity, kindness and respect for boundaries. Start slowly, then build. This letter overwhelms.

]]> by: Doris W. http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-255 Sun, 05 Nov 2006 19:43:38 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-255 Any writing about a mother and child having lived most of their lives apart always has my interest, because I share that same pain. In fact, I will probably write my story, in a very abbreviated form, for this site. My baby was a boy, and I got to be his mommy for the first 9 months of his life, then had visits with him, usually at a park, for the next almost 2 years, before making an impassioned plea to the judge to reunite our family, as he kept saying was his intention. Stating that I had to get on with my life, I left the matter in God's hands, but the judge was not moved to do what I felt was the right thing, and I didn't see my son again until his high school graduation. He is now 26 years old; I was his wedding photographer last September, and I will have the joy of becoming a grandmother to his daughter who is due the last week of 2006. I was very happy to hear that Rea's daughter responded to her letter. However, I would have liked to hear whether they ever did actually meet in person. That reunion when my son was 18 was for me the most intensely emotional evening of my life, even more so than my own wedding. I very much appreciate her niece "Rachael" informing us of her passing. It sounds like she went very peacefully into eternity, and if she didn't have the reunion while here, in time (assuming Maya also knows the Lord), she will have the reunion in a much better place. Any writing about a mother and child having lived most of their lives apart always has my interest, because I share that same pain. In fact, I will probably write my story, in a very abbreviated form, for this site. My baby was a boy, and I got to be his mommy for the first 9 months of his life, then had visits with him, usually at a park, for the next almost 2 years, before making an impassioned plea to the judge to reunite our family, as he kept saying was his intention. Stating that I had to get on with my life, I left the matter in God’s hands, but the judge was not moved to do what I felt was the right thing, and I didn’t see my son again until his high school graduation. He is now 26 years old; I was his wedding photographer last September, and I will have the joy of becoming a grandmother to his daughter who is due the last week of 2006.

I was very happy to hear that Rea’s daughter responded to her letter. However, I would have liked to hear whether they ever did actually meet in person. That reunion when my son was 18 was for me the most intensely emotional evening of my life, even more so than my own wedding.

I very much appreciate her niece “Rachael” informing us of her passing. It sounds like she went very peacefully into eternity, and if she didn’t have the reunion while here, in time (assuming Maya also knows the Lord), she will have the reunion in a much better place.

]]> by: Jamie http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-229 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 22:17:58 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-229 Hi Rachael, I think that`s beautiful! I never got the chance to meet my biological father, only finding out about him when he had passed away. However, I got to meet his family a few years ago and it was the weirdest but most wonderful experience ever. I would be interested to know how your cousin felt about meeting everyone and how she feels now. I am around the same age as her (27). I met my brother, but we have a sister out there that no one can find. Its hard to understand why people do these things but I guess as someone who has brought another person into the world it is also the ultimate act of love and unselfishness to give that person a better life. Hi Rachael,
I think that`s beautiful! I never got the chance to meet my biological father, only finding out about him when he had passed away. However, I got to meet his family a few years ago and it was the weirdest but most wonderful experience ever. I would be interested to know how your cousin felt about meeting everyone and how she feels now. I am around the same age as her (27). I met my brother, but we have a sister out there that no one can find. Its hard
to understand why people do these things but I guess as someone who has brought another person into the world it is also the ultimate act of love and unselfishness to give that person a better life.

]]> by: Elizabeth http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-228 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 20:19:03 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-228 Wow I am speechless after reading the letter. I lost my own mother when I was very young and my sister and I have been separated for over a decade and I can't find her. I know how painful and empty it feels. This letter brouhgt me to tears and really touched me. Wow I am speechless after reading the letter. I lost my own mother when I was very young and my sister and I have been separated for over a decade and I can’t find her. I know how painful and empty it feels.
This letter brouhgt me to tears and really touched me.

]]> by: S. Nithya Kamakshi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-222 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 10:35:10 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-222 The letter literally moved me. Though i am too young to judge her, I do strongly feel that she had made the right decision. I hope Maya understands this and forgives her. Life is too short to be spent in regrets. Whats done cannot be undone. All she can do now is to pray for Lea and to understand what a taumatic decision she had made for her benefit. May her soul rest in peace. The letter literally moved me. Though i am too young to judge her, I do strongly feel that she had made the right decision. I hope Maya understands this and forgives her. Life is too short to be spent in regrets. Whats done cannot be undone. All she can do now is to pray for Lea and to understand what a taumatic decision she had made for her benefit. May her soul rest in peace.

]]> by: Gary Swoboda http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-219 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 04:34:28 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-219 The letter "Lea" wrote to "Maya" was awesome. Beautiful. I consider it a gift to have been able to read it. Thank you. The letter “Lea” wrote to “Maya” was awesome. Beautiful. I consider it a gift to have been able to read it. Thank you.

]]> by: Rachael http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-205 Mon, 30 Oct 2006 01:38:38 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-205 The universe moves in mysterious ways. I am the niece that Lea spoke of in her letter to her daughter. My aunt was an excellent writer she wrote for the majority of her life. This letter to her daughter was the only thing that she published or attempted to. I would like to thank you all for being apart of her process. The day her letter was published my beautiful aunt passed away. We found her alone in her room, loving and missing her daughter till the end. She was never able to see her letter on-line, but I believe she knows. Once again thank you and blessings to all the young girls out there making these decisions. The universe moves in mysterious ways. I am the niece that Lea spoke of in her letter to her daughter. My aunt was an excellent writer she wrote for the majority of her life. This letter to her daughter was the only thing that she published or attempted to. I would like to thank you all for being apart of her process. The day her letter was published my beautiful aunt passed away. We found her alone in her room, loving and missing her daughter till the end. She was never able to see her letter on-line, but I believe she knows.

Once again thank you and blessings to all the young girls out there making these decisions.

]]> by: Alisa O http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-200 Sun, 29 Oct 2006 15:06:27 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-200 I believe this discission was not an easy one, and at the time we as people do things we feel is a possiblity for the best. I had a sister which she was addopted out because my mother was in the same situation, he was I believe 18 years old, and she had me a year before. My mother was faced with pressure from my family as well of giving my sister up for adoption. My mother faught tooth and nail to keep my sister, but at the end she gave her up to a family that had all the means to take care of her, my sister grew up and had a good life with her adopted family, but deep inside, she never forgave my mother for giving her up for adoption. I believe God gives us a blessing as children, and whatever situation we are in, that is the test, I believe that if you would have kept your daugter, God would have made a way for you to take care of her, and God (since he is our provider), he provides everything we need. Our needs do not come from earthly things, our needs come from God. I believe if you would have kept her, you would have seen a better life eventually. I believe this discission was not an easy one, and at the time we as people do things we feel is a possiblity for the best. I had a sister which she was addopted out because my mother was in the same situation, he was I believe 18 years old, and she had me a year before. My mother was faced with pressure from my family as well of giving my sister up for adoption. My mother faught tooth and nail to keep my sister, but at the end she gave her up to a family that had all the means to take care of her, my sister grew up and had a good life with her adopted family, but deep inside, she never forgave my mother for giving her up for adoption. I believe God gives us a blessing as children, and whatever situation we are in, that is the test, I believe that if you would have kept your daugter, God would have made a way for you to take care of her, and God (since he is our provider), he provides everything we need. Our needs do not come from earthly things, our needs come from God. I believe if you would have kept her, you would have seen a better life eventually.

]]> by: Orikinla Osinachi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-195 Sat, 28 Oct 2006 12:09:56 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/27/letter-to-my-daughter/#comment-195 I would have loved to read how her daughter responded. What she did for Maya was the best thing to do since she did not want her beloved daughter to suffer. So, she should not feel guilty about it. God bless. I would have loved to read how her daughter responded.

What she did for Maya was the best thing to do since she did not want her beloved daughter to suffer. So, she should not feel guilty about it.

God bless.

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