Comments on: A Divorce in India http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/ Listen to stories on anything from honeymoons to WWII, from award-winning journalists to first-time writers alike, from anywhere in the world. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:47:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: savita http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-67543 Thu, 29 Apr 2010 13:01:54 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-67543 why is it that we all expect a woman to work on her marriage. it takes two to tango. we woman should try to see the other side of the coin too before condemning both the author and the girl whose story it is. she must be under a trauma, as most indians or rather asians will know that a married daughter is always treated like a guest and not allowed to call her parental home her home. just imagine the light of a woman who is thrown out of her marital home and forced to live in ignomy at her parent's. it will be so till all women become economically independent why is it that we all expect a woman to work on her marriage. it takes two to tango. we woman should try to see the other side of the coin too before condemning both the author and the girl whose story it is. she must be under a trauma, as most indians or rather asians will know that a married daughter is always treated like a guest and not allowed to call her parental home her home. just imagine the light of a woman who is thrown out of her marital home and forced to live in ignomy at her parent’s. it will be so till all women become economically independent

]]> by: dolly http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-63766 Tue, 08 Dec 2009 10:15:56 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-63766 Dear lakshmi How can you call this woman a blemish....as you know women are all hearts and they have strong enduring power. she is not promising to endure more torture but just wanting to reform a person. she is seeking the almight help in making her husband a better person. no one wants a broken marriage till its irrevocable. there is a better side to all human beings but there is limit to patience. Dear lakshmi How can you call this woman a blemish….as you know women are all hearts and they have strong enduring power. she is not promising to endure more torture but just wanting to reform a person. she is seeking the almight help in making her husband a better person. no one wants a broken marriage till its irrevocable. there is a better side to all human beings but there is limit to patience.

]]> by: LAKSHMI http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-59350 Sun, 22 Mar 2009 18:17:36 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-59350 I totally agree with LIYA. this womans a blemish in the name of womankind. how does any body know what God likes. why should we believe in somebodys faith. If God is that cruel in any religion he can't be "GOD". I totally agree with LIYA. this womans a blemish in the name of womankind.
how does any body know what God likes. why should we believe in somebodys faith. If God is that cruel in any religion he can’t be “GOD”.

]]> by: Preeti Malhotra http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-58775 Wed, 25 Feb 2009 11:23:07 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-58775 Hi Neelmani, Just read your article, i can understand its quite disturbing and also can understand tht u luv him a lot and its true its not at allnecesarry tht the way person behaves with u even u shud take a revenge luv is a beautiful feeling and very true which happens just once for someone special. Lets talk practically, emotions are part of one sided coin if u r literate and can live ur own life u shud move away from there and start living indeopendently coz its not only u who is suffering, u have ur children responsibilities too which u cannot avoid so for their better kiving anyways u r suffering there why not u live independently and give ur children a gud future. I am very sure things will work out and i believe God whtever happens it happens for good Just trust God. Hi Neelmani,
Just read your article, i can understand its quite disturbing and also can understand tht u luv him a lot and its true its not at allnecesarry tht the way person behaves with u even u shud take a revenge luv is a beautiful feeling and very true which happens just once for someone special.
Lets talk practically, emotions are part of one sided coin if u r literate and can live ur own life u shud move away from there and start living indeopendently coz its not only u who is suffering, u have ur children responsibilities too which u cannot avoid so for their better kiving anyways u r suffering there why not u live independently and give ur children a gud future. I am very sure things will work out and i believe God whtever happens it happens for good Just trust God.

]]> by: chaynika katyal http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-57530 Wed, 22 Oct 2008 13:51:15 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-57530 Even i am going through the same situation ,but in india familes are too complex some times.I am staying with my husband from last 2 years but from the first day till now i dont feel like i am marrid i simply want to divorce him as we are nor happy with each other many time he force me to have baby but i dont like ti have child with that guy.Simply want to live live alone.. Chaynika katyal delhi Even i am going through the same situation ,but in india familes are too complex some times.I am staying with my husband from last 2 years but from the first day till now i dont feel like i am marrid i simply want to divorce him as we are nor happy with each other many time he force me to have baby but i dont like ti have child with that guy.Simply want to live live alone..

Chaynika katyal delhi

]]> by: Deepak Appu http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-56659 Mon, 14 Jul 2008 16:30:10 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-56659 I too am moved by the woman's plight. However this is just one side of the story. Women can be as self centered as men. What goes for the goose goes for the gander too. So portaying women as victims of divorces or marital situations is not correct. The pathos of the story stands out because of adverse social fabric of society not because of the divorce per se. If the end result of a divorce were a happier situation for the male and female would that be ok then? So logically speaking a divorce is only a separation between male and female and the end result of happiness and sadness is a fallout of the social situation not the divorce. I too am moved by the woman’s plight. However this is just one side of the story. Women can be as self centered as men. What goes for the goose goes for the gander too. So portaying women as victims of divorces or marital situations is not correct. The pathos of the story stands out because of adverse social fabric of society not because of the divorce per se. If the end result of a divorce were a happier situation for the male and female would that be ok then? So logically speaking a divorce is only a separation between male and female and the end result of happiness and sadness is a fallout of the social situation not the divorce.

]]> by: Susan http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-55553 Wed, 04 Jun 2008 05:54:22 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-55553 Thanks for the story. I am just going through a similar situation, contemplating the thought of divorce. My problems are not as severe as what is mentioned here; but I doubt if there is love in my marriage. It looks like it is for convenience and certain status in the society. I don't know what future has in store for me; just wanted to let others know this is not the story of 1 person or 2; a lot of households will have the same story to tell, few choosing to tell it out. Thanks for the story. I am just going through a similar situation, contemplating the thought of divorce. My problems are not as severe as what is mentioned here; but I doubt if there is love in my marriage. It looks like it is for convenience and certain status in the society. I don’t know what future has in store for me; just wanted to let others know this is not the story of 1 person or 2; a lot of households will have the same story to tell, few choosing to tell it out.

]]> by: pd http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-46673 Sat, 19 Apr 2008 01:57:31 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-46673 Thanks for this story, I am going to something similar emotionally, and must say, you have a way with words. You really described a woman's point of view and strength with regards to making a marriage work. I am glad that your friend's family is supportive, as I get my strenght from my family who is being very supportive right now. Thanks for this story, I am going to something similar emotionally, and must say, you have a way with words. You really described a woman’s point of view and strength with regards to making a marriage work. I am glad that your friend’s family is supportive, as I get my strenght from my family who is being very supportive right now.

]]> by: Joe http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-46622 Wed, 16 Apr 2008 10:10:56 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-46622 This story grabbed me straight away. It invoked feelings of emotion and I managed to climb into the writers mind. I come from a country where men believe they have power over women and as a result women are often mistreated. I also come from a broken home and as much as this woman does not like failure, she needs to think about what this is doing to her children. Will her son grow up thinking that this is indeed the way a woman is to be treated? Will her daughter grow up, enter a marriage and take the beating and emotional abuse because in her mind, this is just how it is? Sometimes failure is not just resulted to how you live your life, but how you influence the lives of others. This story grabbed me straight away. It invoked feelings of emotion and I managed to climb into the writers mind. I come from a country where men believe they have power over women and as a result women are often mistreated.
I also come from a broken home and as much as this woman does not like failure, she needs to think about what this is doing to her children. Will her son grow up thinking that this is indeed the way a woman is to be treated? Will her daughter grow up, enter a marriage and take the beating and emotional abuse because in her mind, this is just how it is?
Sometimes failure is not just resulted to how you live your life, but how you influence the lives of others.

]]> by: Denise_2 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-46571 Sun, 13 Apr 2008 05:56:07 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2006/10/30/a-divorce-in-india/#comment-46571 I, too, recently faced this decision, though the abuse was of a verbal not physical nature. There is life after divorce, albeit one that is wary of future partners having been burned so badly once. Thank you, Neelmani, for sharing your friend's story. I wish her all the best on her path to recovery from living in such terror. I, too, recently faced this decision, though the abuse was of a verbal not physical nature. There is life after divorce, albeit one that is wary of future partners having been burned so badly once.

Thank you, Neelmani, for sharing your friend’s story. I wish her all the best on her path to recovery from living in such terror.

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