Comments on: The Day I Moved Out http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/ Listen to stories on anything from honeymoons to WWII, from award-winning journalists to first-time writers alike, from anywhere in the world. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:47:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Debi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-3657 Thu, 15 Mar 2007 03:32:21 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-3657 Dear Hope... I am sorry that you had a rough childhood too. =( That is wonderful though that you and your mother were able to move beyond it. =) I would love to read your story when it's published just because of what we have in common. It is amazing how the best writing is from things that have happend to us as individuals whether good or bad. I wish you the best in your writing, and I hope that your own voice is heard too. =) Dear Hope…

I am sorry that you had a rough childhood too. =( That is wonderful though that you and your mother were able to move beyond it. =) I would love to read your story when it’s published just because of what we have in common. It is amazing how the best writing is from things that have happend to us as individuals whether good or bad. I wish you the best in your writing, and I hope that your own voice is heard too. =)

]]> by: Hope http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-3653 Wed, 14 Mar 2007 21:43:38 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-3653 I can definitely relate to your story. Especially the last part where you said, \"To those people who ever wondered why I was always so quiet as a child and kept to myself, I have only this to say: I wish you had asked me then instead of now. That’s OK though. I have found my voice.\" AMEN! I\'m working on my own story to share. It\'s bitterly painful. My mother and I have healed our relationship, but it still makes me physically ill to recall some memories. I\'ve found recently though that writing about the past evokes a deep emotion and passion in my writing, and I like that. ;) I can definitely relate to your story. Especially the last part where you said,

\”To those people who ever wondered why I was always so quiet as a child and kept to myself, I have only this to say: I wish you had asked me then instead of now. That’s OK though. I have found my voice.\”

AMEN!

I\’m working on my own story to share. It\’s bitterly painful. My mother and I have healed our relationship, but it still makes me physically ill to recall some memories. I\’ve found recently though that writing about the past evokes a deep emotion and passion in my writing, and I like that. ;)

]]> by: Debi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2517 Mon, 19 Feb 2007 21:51:52 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2517 Dear Penny... ***Big Huge Hugs*** Life is not always an easy course for anyone to live, but admitly some do have it harder than others at times. However, those hard times in life also make us stronger. I don't know your story, but I do know from reading what you wrote that you are a strong person for even writing what you did. I heard your voice just now...and it is a wonderful voice!! =) Don't let what happened in the past or even what's happening to you now...shape your future. It is never to late....ever. I am sure if you just sat down and really thought about it that you have already made your life a blessing and that you have already made a contribution. =) Your suffering is not in vain, and neither was mine. It helped built us up to be who we are now, and as for me, I value life so much more. So go ahead right now...let your voice ring true and loud!!! Wishing you lots of happiness, Debi Dear Penny…

***Big Huge Hugs*** Life is not always an easy course for anyone to live, but admitly some do have it harder than others at times. However, those hard times in life also make us stronger. I don’t know your story, but I do know from reading what you wrote that you are a strong person for even writing what you did. I heard your voice just now…and it is a wonderful voice!! =)

Don’t let what happened in the past or even what’s happening to you now…shape your future. It is never to late….ever. I am sure if you just sat down and really thought about it that you have already made your life a blessing and that you have already made a contribution. =) Your suffering is not in vain, and neither was mine. It helped built us up to be who we are now, and as for me, I value life so much more. So go ahead right now…let your voice ring true and loud!!!

Wishing you lots of happiness,
Debi

]]> by: Penny http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2477 Mon, 19 Feb 2007 02:19:34 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2477 Debi, I stumbled upon your story tonight I am so sorry for your suffering I am also so filled with joy and awe at how you matured and your life has evolved I come from a catastrophic history, and in many ways, it crippled me I am not an abusive personality; actually, I am very loving and compassionate But, I never feel safe on the planet and have not been able to claim my rightful place on life\'s stage Actually, I feel like an orphan on the planet...very much alone here I am aging now...close to 60 So, time is clearly beginning to run out I still hope that I can make a contribution I still have hope that I can make my life a blessing.... That\'s my greatest wish, Debi...to make my life a blessing So, that my having lived will mean something of value, and all the suffering will not be in vain..... I am so very grateful that you found your voice, Debi May I find mine..... With love, Penny Debi,
I stumbled upon your story tonight
I am so sorry for your suffering
I am also so filled with joy and awe at how you matured and your life has evolved
I come from a catastrophic history, and in many ways, it crippled me
I am not an abusive personality; actually, I am very loving and compassionate
But, I never feel safe on the planet and have not been able to claim my rightful place on life\’s stage
Actually, I feel like an orphan on the planet…very much alone here
I am aging now…close to 60
So, time is clearly beginning to run out
I still hope that I can make a contribution
I still have hope that I can make my life a blessing….
That\’s my greatest wish, Debi…to make my life a blessing
So, that my having lived will mean something of value, and all the suffering will not be in vain…..
I am so very grateful that you found your voice, Debi
May I find mine…..
With love,
Penny

]]> by: Debi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2327 Fri, 16 Feb 2007 01:03:15 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2327 Hi Christopher, =) You would be right....some continue the path they were shown, and some rebel and find a better way to raise their children. My children always have my heart, and my parenting style is 100% different than my mother\'s. LOL, my children know what time outs are, and they have never seen me raise my hand unless I am tickling them. ;-) Yes, writing is one of my joys, and I am sooooo glad that I finally do have a voice compared to when I was younger. =) Hi Christopher, =)

You would be right….some continue the path they were shown, and some rebel and find a better way to raise their children. My children always have my heart, and my parenting style is 100% different than my mother\’s. LOL, my children know what time outs are, and they have never seen me raise my hand unless I am tickling them. ;-)

Yes, writing is one of my joys, and I am sooooo glad that I finally do have a voice compared to when I was younger. =)

]]> by: Debi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2325 Fri, 16 Feb 2007 00:51:57 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2325 Hi Jean, =) There's a part of me that is glad that my writing left you wanting to read more, but there is also a part of me that is sad that I could even have such an event happen in my life to share. I did overcome it though I am happy to say. My family is an amazing one, and I have been truly blessed with the rest of the way my life has turned out...=) Hi Jean, =)

There’s a part of me that is glad that my writing left you wanting to read more, but there is also a part of me that is sad that I could even have such an event happen in my life to share. I did overcome it though I am happy to say. My family is an amazing one, and I have been truly blessed with the rest of the way my life has turned out…=)

]]> by: Debi http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2324 Fri, 16 Feb 2007 00:47:04 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2324 Hi Kim, =) Thank you for saying that! I really have found my voice as a writer, and just who I am as a person now. As you stated...writing really does help you find yourself. I was able to write this piece because my mom passed away years ago. I have forgiven her to the best of my ability, and I hope that if there is an after life that she now rests in peace. LOL, I promise to keep on writing...;-) Hi Kim, =)

Thank you for saying that! I really have found my voice as a writer, and just who I am as a person now. As you stated…writing really does help you find yourself. I was able to write this piece because my mom passed away years ago. I have forgiven her to the best of my ability, and I hope that if there is an after life that she now rests in peace. LOL, I promise to keep on writing…;-)

]]> by: Christopher http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2322 Fri, 16 Feb 2007 00:27:33 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2322 Debi, Wow--I can't even imagine that kind of childhood. I've known many people who were abused when they were younger, and they seem to repeat the very thing they hated, or go the other way and end up being great parents later in life. Reading your bio, it sounds like you've walked out of a nightmare youth and ended up a great parent. I'm glad writing gives you a voice--and I'm glad you survived growing up to share your writing. Christopher Debi,

Wow–I can’t even imagine that kind of childhood. I’ve known many people who were abused when they were younger, and they seem to repeat the very thing they hated, or go the other way and end up being great parents later in life.

Reading your bio, it sounds like you’ve walked out of a nightmare youth and ended up a great parent. I’m glad writing gives you a voice–and I’m glad you survived growing up to share your writing.

Christopher

]]> by: Jean Riva http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2320 Thu, 15 Feb 2007 23:36:31 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2320 You left me wanting to read more. I guess the fact that you now say that you are a happily married with two children says it all. Good for you that you found the strenght to overcome an abusive childhood to become the woman you are. You left me wanting to read more. I guess the fact that you now say that you are a happily married with two children says it all. Good for you that you found the strenght to overcome an abusive childhood to become the woman you are.

]]> by: Kim Robinson http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2303 Thu, 15 Feb 2007 19:28:56 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/02/15/the-day-i-moved-out/#comment-2303 Debi, I felt so much anger reading your story---my stomach tightened when your mother hit you--the whack across your face, I could feel---and the last words you hearing-- "come back, bitch." I thank God you found your voice--finally--finally. So many of us find ourselves through our writing. Have you sent her (your mother) this story? I hope so. Keep writing, girl! Kim R. Debi, I felt so much anger reading your story—my stomach tightened when your mother hit you–the whack across your face, I could feel—and the last words you hearing– “come back, bitch.”
I thank God you found your voice–finally–finally. So many of us find ourselves through our writing.
Have you sent her (your mother) this story? I hope so.

Keep writing, girl!

Kim R.

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