Comments on: No Calculable Depth http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/ Listen to stories on anything from honeymoons to WWII, from award-winning journalists to first-time writers alike, from anywhere in the world. Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:27:35 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: maria muscente http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-11868 Fri, 20 Apr 2007 15:20:39 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-11868 wow. this story is so powerful. you and heather amaze me every day. those two little cuties have no idea how lucky they are to have such dedicated, loving, strong, resilient mommies..... thank you for sharing wow. this story is so powerful. you and heather amaze me every day. those two little cuties have no idea how lucky they are to have such dedicated, loving, strong, resilient mommies….. thank you for sharing

]]> by: Chester McVay http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9830 Fri, 06 Apr 2007 06:35:56 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9830 My wife and I know the pain you have been through. We were denied the adoption of a Native Girl the state caseworker and the agency claim is NOT native. She asked to be in our home. The agency strung us out 6 months for foster care licensing then dumped us. We were denied access to see or talk to her. We switched agencies but the state caseworker worked toward guardianship with her foster mother. She did not feel safe there, and never progressed in her school work. We now have a Foster Care License which we did not even need for adoption but all the state tells us is "You do not have a status." We are glad you got your son. My wife and I know the pain you have been through. We were denied the adoption of a Native Girl the state caseworker and the agency claim is NOT native. She asked to be in our home. The agency strung us out 6 months for foster care licensing then dumped us. We were denied access to see or talk to her. We switched agencies but the state caseworker worked toward guardianship with her foster mother. She did not feel safe there, and never progressed in her school work.

We now have a Foster Care License which we did not even need for adoption but all the state tells us is “You do not have a status.” We are glad you got your son.

]]> by: Tami C Ryan http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9208 Wed, 04 Apr 2007 06:06:58 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9208 As a woman who tried to achieve pregnancy unsuccessfully for well over 2 years, wanting a child so desperately, my heart ached as I read your story. I can only imagine the pain you must have felt. I'm so glad your story ends happily. Oh, wait... this is not the end. THIS is the beginning! (smiles) Congratulations to you and your family! Tami As a woman who tried to achieve pregnancy unsuccessfully for well over 2 years, wanting a child so desperately, my heart ached as I read your story. I can only imagine the pain you must have felt. I’m so glad your story ends happily. Oh, wait… this is not the end. THIS is the beginning! (smiles) Congratulations to you and your family!

Tami

]]> by: Andrea B. http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9193 Tue, 03 Apr 2007 22:10:14 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9193 Thank you to everyone who wrote and commented on the piece. We so appreciate all the comments and support from everyone on the Common Ties staff and everyone who read about our son's journey and felt our pain and triumph. I am new to the blogging world so I only knew how to leave everyone a general message. I am so thrilled to hear folks shedding tears of joy for our family. I promised my son I would tell the world his story so that all families who were trying to adopt would be just a little more alert to the hidden agendas of the powers that be, no matter where you are adopting. Sarojni, hold that baby girl close now. No one can take her away. Lindsey and Josh, we are hoping our son's story will be a flicker of hope for the gay community. We can all win, as long as we continue to shout "ENOUGH," and then create our own dreams. Bob and Elizabeth, thank you for shedding caring, beautiful tears of gladness! Andrea Thank you to everyone who wrote and commented on the piece. We so appreciate all the comments and support from everyone on the Common Ties staff and everyone who read about our son’s journey and felt our pain and triumph. I am new to the blogging world so I only knew how to leave everyone a general message. I am so thrilled to hear folks shedding tears of joy for our family. I promised my son I would tell the world his story so that all families who were trying to adopt would be just a little more alert to the hidden agendas of the powers that be, no matter where you are adopting. Sarojni, hold that baby girl close now. No one can take her away. Lindsey and Josh, we are hoping our son’s story will be a flicker of hope for the gay community. We can all win, as long as we continue to shout “ENOUGH,” and then create our own dreams. Bob and Elizabeth, thank you for shedding caring, beautiful tears of gladness!
Andrea

]]> by: Elizabeth D. http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9190 Tue, 03 Apr 2007 21:23:01 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9190 So happy it worked out & your family is together now. I'm crying tears of joy for the three of you! So happy it worked out & your family is together now. I’m crying tears of joy for the three of you!

]]> by: Sarojni http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9172 Tue, 03 Apr 2007 19:13:59 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9172 Andrea, I understand the obstacles as well, though to have a child scheduled to come home to you and then have the case closed would be heartbreaking. Even in the "straight" adoption community, other prejudices can surface, creating road blocks and delays. After my husband and I filled out mounds of paperwork and waited for months on end, an orphanage in India rejected us because we didn't practice a "formal religion." Our file was then sent on to another orphanage with more lenient guidelines, and in July 1995, our daughter arrived at LAX in the arms of escorts. Thanks for sharing your story. Andrea, I understand the obstacles as well, though to have a child scheduled to come home to you and then have the case closed would be heartbreaking. Even in the “straight” adoption community, other prejudices can surface, creating road blocks and delays. After my husband and I filled out mounds of paperwork and waited for months on end, an orphanage in India rejected us because we didn’t practice a “formal religion.” Our file was then sent on to another orphanage with more lenient guidelines, and in July 1995, our daughter arrived at LAX in the arms of escorts. Thanks for sharing your story.

]]> by: Bob Hale http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9162 Tue, 03 Apr 2007 16:13:53 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9162 ...and here I sit unable to see the computer screen. Could it be tears? Could be! …and here I sit unable to see the computer screen. Could it be tears? Could be!

]]> by: Josh http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9153 Tue, 03 Apr 2007 15:26:49 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9153 I am glad you got your son, but sorry for all the pain you had to go through to do so. I hope adoption becomes easier for gay couples soon. I am glad you got your son, but sorry for all the pain you had to go through to do so. I hope adoption becomes easier for gay couples soon.

]]> by: lindsey http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9152 Tue, 03 Apr 2007 14:35:34 +0000 http://www.commonties.com/blog/2007/04/03/no-calculable-depth/#comment-9152 wow, what an amazing story. thank you for sharing it & thank you for all that you and your wife did to highlight such blatant discrimination. wow, what an amazing story. thank you for sharing it & thank you for all that you and your wife did to highlight such blatant discrimination.

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